19 Feb 5 big questions my Coach asked (that I didn’t have the answer to)
A couple of years ago it felt like I was in a pretty dismal place. I knew I had to make a change but to what – I really didn’t have a clue. I knew things weren’t right but I couldn’t express why.
Over a few sessions my Coach asked me some big questions that I didn’t have an answer to. I felt embarrassed – I truly thought I was more sorted than that.
If you’re wondering why I’m telling you about this, it’s because I’ve asked my clients similar questions since, and they often don’t know the answer either.
Turns out I’m not that unusual after all.
It seems that, for many of us, while we are getting on with getting on we don’t stop to think about these things.
So what were the 5 big questions?
What do you want to be remembered for?
Or, what do you want your legacy to be?
I’d never really thought about it and I’d just crashed on doing what I was doing without being clear about why I was doing it.
I’m not a maker or an inventor – so anything like that was out.
But after quite a bit of thought I realised that most of all I wanted to be remembered as a decent human being, and for being of service to others where I can.
What do you stand for?
I didn’t understand this question at first. What are your values? Oh yes, values, now I understand
Only I didn’t know. What are values anyway?
I went away and did some research. I’ve done more work on that since and my values for life and coaching are here. Being calm is one of them and that’s how I try to live my life.
What do you think your strengths are?
I couldn’t name those either.
Of course I had some strengths, but it felt like I had 360 degree blinkers on.
Like I was in my own bubble, or in a dark tunnel.
Can you describe to me what it feels like?
What are the words for feelings?
I could think of the obvious ones “happy” and “sad” but as for describing how I was feeling well that was a whole other thing.
I went away and looked up “feelings” words for myself. It took quite a while to find the right words and be comfortable with saying how I was really feeling.
How much money do you actually need to live on?
Such a practical question but one that really caught me out. If I was going to make a change with my job I did need to know how much income I would need. But I’d never worked it out. I think I was almost afraid to.
I didn’t think there was an alternative way to live. Of course there was – but when the blinkers are on you can’t see it.
If you want some help with answering those questions then lets talk about it. I offer a free 45 minute introductory call, no obligation, book it now here.
I can tell you about the tools and techniques I use to help you answer those questions for yourself.
There is no need to be embarrassed like I was, I’ve been in that place too.
You can read more about my story here
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